A man declares his value but so does a woman. Does a high value man really get his value equivalency?
THE TRUTH OF EQUIVALENCY
There’s this big misconception about reciprocity. We assume two positives are going to multiply. We think there is this undeniable attraction to each other. Sometimes nothing could be further from the truth.
I get it.
Some assume because some others tell them they are high value they will get their equivalent. There’s a trick in this thought. Remember people say a lot of things. People hold a lot of opinions. The consensus is not a fact.
A consensus just means many people hold the same opinion. What is the trick to this thought I mentioned earlier? The people holding this opinion are not your equivalency.
LOSERS SAYING THEY ARE WINNERS
Positive support is great. People rally around each other to lift each other up. I understand positive reinforcement. It’s wonderful to have a cheerleading squad but what happens when losers are cheering other losers?
That’s not a slight. I’m not demeaning anyone. There are actual winners and losers in competitions. If you lose, you’re a loser. This doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.
It just means you lost. Accept defeat. Learn from it.
The problem is people are promoting a delusion no one needs to win. Newsflash women and men are both competing for the best mates & life partners.
THE BAD THING WITH CONSENSUS
Problems come when all losers come together to decide they are winners. The “high value” concept is experiencing this delusion. There are many coming together to mislabel themselves.
Remember, there is only a few places for victors.
In the Olympics you have a gold medalist, a silver medalist and a bronze medalist. There are three spots for an event. Sometimes there are over one hundred competitors. In this example only three won and the other ninety-seven lost. The majority are losers.
Since losers are the majority, these losers establish consensus among themselves. Since consensus requires only the consent of the many – it is easy to fabricate falsehood as truth.
It is a fact many can hold an incorrect consensus. The main purpose of consensus is not to prove fact but to define levels of agreement on controversial subjects (3).
A common incorrect consensus was many believed the earth was flat for centuries. Despite science scientifically supporting with measurable evidence the earth is not flat – only about two thirds of US Adults believe this in recent survey (4).
Depending on who your consensus is they may challenge your scientifically supported argument with misinformation. Finding a one third level of agreement on flat earth doesn’t mean the people saying the earth is flat are right. It just means one third of people agree the earth is flat in the US.
The same applies for who gets the high value man / high value woman. There’s a big consensus that high value women are exceptionally beautiful, their bodies are crafted in plastic surgery and they get all the high earning millionaire men by simply “existing” next to them like a tree. The expected narration is the high value man only gets a super pretty trophy he gets to have sex with from time to time.
Nothing could be further from the truth. I’m what some would call a “high value” man. Trust me on this one.
THE MAJORITY ARE NOT HIGH VALUE
The most vocal people are often not high value. Often, they are the ones who are average. Some above averages slip in too. This complicates the situation a lot. Afterall, if I can find a breath-taking woman with 100k followers on IG with horrible credit, substance abuse problems and no empathy…you get my point.
The same applies for men.
Attention grabbing is not the same as attention holding. We must recognize the shiny object reflecting sunlight doesn’t mean the object is a piece of gold. The reflection we are seeing might just be an imitation laying in the sun.
With Artificial Intelligence generators, filters, and advance photoshops it is literally impossible to tell if any woman claiming to be a 10 on Instagram is one. She’s most likely a digital apparition.
Trust me. I’ve dated many.
Don’t get fooled. There’s a term for false value. It’s called “fool’s gold”. A man with a lot of money can be fool’s gold just like a woman who’s absolutely gorgeous can be fool’s gold.
Both look great but it’s possible both have no substance. The issue we have is losers propagate this myth that the million earning man and super model woman are what is high value.
GUESS WHO THE LOSERS ARE
I bet you’re thinking I’m going to say what everyone else says. You think I’m going to say the losers are the women who aren’t pretty enough and the men who aren’t high earning enough…right?
Wrong.
The losers I am speaking about are the most vocal. These losers are propped up by false propagators. These losers feed a small community of people online who troll. A recent study suggests a motivator for trolls could possibly be their psychopathy and sadism (5). Personally, I believe some of these people are victimized into propagating a false narration which makes them feel worse without them knowing.
Their victimizer’s secret?
Keep on feeding them the false narration undeniable beauty gets the high value man and vast sums of money get the high value woman.
Who do they get?
The fool’s gold man who hits planet fitness religiously and has a decent amount of money but no real wealth. Just enough to take her on that trip and spend for that $1,000 dinner on his 660-credit score credit card.
MARRIAGE IS THE VICTORY NOT POCKET CHANGE DATES
Ladies and gents, we need to understand what victory is. The victory is marriage. This means you get a full-fledged commitment from a human being to unconditionally 1) put you first, 2) support you in sickness, 3) protect your vulnerabilities, 4) sacrifice their well-being for your safety, & 5) protect you physically, mentally and emotionally.
I don’t know a single human being who does not want the five items listed above. This makes them a qualified leader. Leaders have discipline. Discipline is a component of loyalty. I’m sure there are exceptions to my readers who are the rare exception. These exceptions do not wants a person in their lives who fits this description. Personally, I know no one who says they do not want a person like who I described above.
LET’S STOP CELEBRATING FOOL’S GOLD
Let’s stop celebrating the fact someone was flown out first class last minute (about $1,200 in value) went out for a $500 meal and stayed overnight in the Ritz which cost $1,000 for the night.
The lifetime cost to support another human being is better. We can get a baseline of this cost if it is measured in what parents do for their children. After all, parents pay for everything and then some. The average cost is $312,202 for a “middle income” lifestyle (2) over a period of seventeen years. Over a seventeen-year period this works out to a support of about $26,016.83 per year.
This doesn’t include anything like dates, presents or vacations.
Financially speaking, the woman who is married fares way better than the woman who is whooshed off to some exotic location for a night or two. The woman who prefers adventure would need to do this at least nine times a year to compete with the woman who just gets a “middle class” lifestyle.
THE THINGS THAT MATTER TO HIGH VALUE MEN
None of the above factors in the things that matter. Things like emotional support, emotional availability, joint problem solving, emergencies, help with children, or family support. These are just finances.
As a married man, I can honestly say I try to give the best I can to my wife. I do not shower her with middle of the road effort or middle of the road stuff. Her Christian Louboutin purse, her Jimmy Choo heels and her tennis necklace give a small glimmer into the value I assign to her.
I value her for the following: 1) a resilient nature, 2) extremely hard work ethic, 3) empathy for other people, 4) discipline in taking care of her body, 5) emotional temperance, 6) trust to allow me to make the final decision after due consultation, and 7) spiritual growth for seeking of God.
WHAT REAL HIGH VALUE LOOKS LIKE
The high value woman is not looking for a guy who stunts every day and throws money. Pardon my words, but “Guys throw money at hoes not ladies”. Remember that ladies.
My high value lady was looking for a man who 1) puts her first, 2) supports her in sickness, 3) protects her during her vulnerabilities, 4) sacrifices his well-being for her safety, 5) protects her physically, mentally and emotionally & 6) has the discipline to build a future established by trustful actions with faith in God at the center. The translation to these items is “leadership”.
DISCIPLINE IN LEADERSHIP IS LOYALTY
A man with no discipline cannot do any of the above because he has no loyalty.
Men who are leaders do not cheat on their teammates. They lead their teams to victory. Just ask any world champion who is the captain of his team. Ask any general who leads his army into battle.
There are no examples of high value cheaters. There are only examples of high value heroes. High value women are looking for heroes not bystanders. Just ask my daughter. She calls me her hero. My wife calls me our leader.
The fool’s gold high value women do not get high value men. They only get pretenders on credit.
Are you fool’s gold or the real thing ladies? Read the article again.
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Sources
1) The life of Christopher Knight Lopez a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t” & Co-Author of “Many Paths To Profit” with the original shark from Shark Tank Kevin Harrington.
2) Institute For Family Studies. “The True Cost of Raising A Child”. Holten, Kendra. 17 July 2023. Accessed August 6th 2024 at 9:38AM CST.
3) Am J Public Health. “Consensus Methods: characteristics and guidelines for use.” Fink, A., Kosecoff J., Chassin M., and Brook R.H. 1984 September; 74(9): 979–983. doi: 10.2105/ajph.74.9.979, PMCID: PMC1651783PMID: 6380323.
4) University of Melbourne. “Why Do Some People Believe the Earth is Flat?”. Furze, Anders. Published 11 January 2019. Accessed August 6th 2024, 1022AM CST.
5) National Institute for Health. PLOS One. “Troll story: The dark tetrad and online trolling revisited with a glance at humor”. Volkmer S. Alida, et al. 2023; 18(3): e0280271. Published online 2023 Mar 10. doi: 10.1371/journal.pone.0280271 PMCID: PMC10004561PMID: 36897846
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About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t” and Co-Author with Kevin “The Shark” Harrington “Many Paths To Profit”. Christopher has opened over 7 businesses in his 15-year career. Christopher’s purpose is to take advantage of various market-driven opportunities. Christopher is a certified Master Project Manager (MPM), and Accredited Financial Analyst (AFA). Christopher previously held his Series 65 securities license examination and was a Master Financial Planner (MFP). Christopher also held his General Lines — Life, Accident, Health & HMO. Christopher has managed a combined 286mm USD in reported Assets Under Management & Assets Under Advisement. Christopher has work experience in 33 countries, raised over 50mm USD for various businesses, and grossed over 13.0mm in his personal career. Christopher worked in the highly technical industries of: biotechnology, finance, securities, manufacturing, real estate, and residential mortgages. Christopher is a United States Air Force Veteran. Christopher has a passion for family, competitive sports, fishing, martial arts and advocacy for entrepreneurs. Christopher provides self-help classes for up-and-coming entrepreneurs. Christopher’s passion to mentor comes from belief that entrepreneurs need guidance. The world is full of conflicting information about entrepreneur identity. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.
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